Saturday, December 17, 2005

CRAF, NJ...CHRISTMAS TIME WITHOUT YOUR HUSBAND

HI EVERYONE!

IF YOU ARE READING THIS JOURNAL FOR THE FIRST TIME, LET ME SAY "WELCOME!"  AND IF YOU ARE A PRISONER'S WIFE WITHOUT YOUR HUSBAND FOR THE HOLIDAY SEASON, YES, I KNOW , IT HURTS.  THE WORLD IS WORRIED ABOUT WIDOWS, THE AGED, THE SICK, THE HOMELESS, THE MILITARY, THE VICTIM'S OF NATURAL DISASTERS, THE POOR AND THE NEEDY....BUT NO ONE, SIMPLY NO ONE , IS WORRIED ABOUT THE WIFE OF A MAN IN PRISON...NO, THEY ARE NOT WORRIED ABOUT THE PRISONER, AND LET US NOT FORGET THE POOR LITTLE CHILDREN, WHO ARE WITHOUT THEIR DADDIES AND MOMMIES, FOR YET ANOTHER CHRISTMAS.....HOW HORRIBLE IT MUST BE FOR THEM! 

  I SHOULD CORRECT MYSELF...THROUGH THIS JOURNAL, I HAVE FINALLY MADE MANY PEOPLE AWARE OF PRISONER'S AND THE LOVED ONES THEY LEAVE BEHIND...THAT IS THE PURPOSE OF THIS JOURNAL, AND WE MUST WORK TOGETHER TO CHANGE THINGS IN OUR COUNTRY.  IF YOU LOOK INTO IT ON "GOOGLE," YOU WILL FIND THAT GREAT BRITAIN HAS AN EXTENSIVE SOCIAL SUPORT SYSTEM THROUGHOUT,  FOR LOVED ONES OF PRISONERS, INCLUDING CHILDREN....IT IS A VERY GREAT THING...PROVIDED FOR BY THE GOVERNMENT...I COULD ONLY IMAGINE IT , HERE, IN AMERICA...AND IT WOULD BE MY DREAM COME TRUE, TO SEE IT HAPPEN HERE....OF COURSE, WE MUST START WRITTING TO OUR CONGRESSMEN, ETC........MAYBE IF WE JOIN FORCES, WE WILL START TO SEE THINGS CHANGE IN OUR COUNTRY.

I GUESS YOU REALIZED, I HAVEN'T WRITTEN IN A FEW DAYS.....WELL, I'VE JUST BEEN TRYING TO GET MYSELF TOGETHER, HERE......MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY.

JIMMY CALLS ME EVERYDAY, HOWEVER DUE TO BROKEN PHONES, HE CANT ALWAYS GET THROUGH TO ME.  SO, HE HAS OTHER INMATES CALL ME, WHO ARE WALKING AROUND OUTSIDE HIS CELL....SO FAR, 3 INMATES HAVE CALLED ME TO SEE IF I'M OK, AND TO RELAY THE MESSAGE THAT JIMMY LOVES ME.  AND SO, I HAVE ALSO LISTENED TO A LITTLE OF THEIR STORY...ONE HAS A WIFE WITH LYMPHOMA, ANOTHER HAS A 5 YEAR OLD SON, WHOM HE MISSES DEARLY......AND SO, THE PRISON STORIES ARE ENDLESS...DIFFERENT FACES, SIMILAR STORIES OF HARDSHIP.

I MUST SHARE WITH YOU SOMETHING WONDERFUL THAT HAPPENED TODAY!....IT IS SOMEWHAT OF A MIRACLE...........ALL DAY TODAY, I WAS IN THE HOUSE PRAYING TO THE LORD..........I FELT COMFORTED, AND A PEACE CAME OVER ME THAT I HAVE NOT FELT SINCE JIMMY WENT BACKTO PRISON..............AND THEN, I RECEIVED A LETTER FROM MY COUSIN IN NEW MEXICO.  HER HUSBAND AND HERSELF , ARE VERY PROMINANT PEOPLE THERE, AS HE IS A VETINARIAN, AND THEY HAVE THEIR OWN BUSINESS, AND JUDY, MY COUSIN, HAD A VERY IMPORTANT POSITION, A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO, AS "STATE REPRESENTATIVE," (R), NEW MEXICO.  WELL, BOTH ARE VERY ACTIVE IN THE CATHOLIC CHURCH...JUDY WAS TELLING ME THAT BOTH DO MARRIAGE COUNSELING WITHIN THE CHURCH..............NOW, ALL DAY, I WAS THINKING TO MYSELF, THAT JIMMY AND I SHOULD DO WORK FOR OTHERS WITHIN THE STRUCTURE OF THE CHURCH............................WELL, A FEW MINUTES LATER, AFTER THE LETTER ARRIVED, JIMMY TELLS ME THAT WE SHOULD BECOME MARRIAGE COUNSELORS FOR PRISONS, WITHIN THE CHURCH.........I WAS VERY SHOCKED...I KNEW HE WANTED TO DO THIS, BUT ALL THESE THOUGHTS CAME ON THE SAME DAY...................MY COUSIN WOULD SAY, 'IT IS THE HOLY SPIRIT, FRAN."

AND MY JIMMY WOULD SAY, THAT WE WOULD MAKE GOOD MARRIAGE COUNSELORS, AS WE HAVE A MOST WONDERFUL MARRIAGE, AND IT WOULD BE A JOY TO TEACH OTHERS JUST EXACTLY WHAT MARRIAGE AND LOVE AND COMMITEMENT IS ALL ABOUT................YES, WE BELIEVE VERY STRONGLY IN MARRIAGE........DESPITE WHAT A LOT OF OUR POPULATION FEELS........

JIMMY DID SEE THE "COURT LINE, " ON FRIDAY....HE IS APPEALING THE DECISION, AND SO IT WILL NOW GO INTO THE HIGHER ADMINISTRATOR'S HANDS..........IT IS BETTER THAT WAY................AND SO, THAT IS REALLY ALL I CAN SAY ABOUT IT RIGHT NOW, AS IT IS A LEGAL ISSUE.

GOOD NITE!           FRAN

7 comments:

mumma4evr said...

glad to see you still around!
Becky

lv2trnscrb said...

I think you and Jimmy would be great as marriage counselors or mentors. Truly the work of the Holy Spirit or as I would also say "a God thing".

Like I said before and like you looked into, Fran, Chuck Colson and Prison Fellowship addresses the needs of prisoners. Every year our church puts up an angel tree where people take off ornaments and buy a gift that is requested by a child/teen of a parent in prison. We always run out of ornaments before we run out of people who want to buy a gift. I've participated every year and the last few years have searched out to buy for a teen since I know everyone always wants to buy for the young kids. I also donate online to Angel Tree (through Prison Fellowship). They also send kids of prisoners to a summer camp. I'm not writing this to bring praises to myself, just telling you that there are some organizations helping prisoner kids. I know the state of Texas was doing something to help prisoners adjust back to life when they got out of prison - can't remember all the details about it, but remember hearing it from listening to Chuck Colson.

betty

sugar1337 said...

Becoming couselors would be a good way to turn a bad situation into something positive in the long run.  If nothing else yall could do a support group or something like that.  I hope that they come back with a positive verdict on Jimmy's case.  

adlessor said...

Just checking in to see how you are doing Fran.  Sounds like you have a good idea there.     Hi to jimmy.       Take care of yourself.          Dawn

derasta said...

Becoming councelors is a great idea Fran...you and Jimmy have gone thru so much but the love you share remains constant and strong....

piperacharmed1 said...

I read your journal often...and I feel bad that you are alone without your husband...BUT...a prisoner made a choice that led to his or her incarceration...being old, sick, widowed, or a victim of a natural disaster is not a choice...it just happens to people. While I can feel bad for the families that prisoners leave behind...it is harder to feel bad for a prisoner. And while the military have made a choice to be away from home...it is a far different choice than the choice of someone who breaks the law. I guess all I am saying is that while I do feel sympathy for you...and other wives and children in your situation....I have to wonder why someone with a family and so much to lose or leave behind....would make the choices they do. I am sorry if this seems rude...just being honest....and I truly hope you and your husband are reunited for good soon!

Tracie

katashawoolard said...

I just want to say hello, and God Bless. I will keep your and your family in prayers. My husband was once sentenced to 25 years for a crime that he DID NOT commit. I know what it is like to have the same pain and hurt as other women without their husbands at Christmas, but not have it recognized because of the situation. It was a very rough time in lives of me, my husband, and our children and I pray that God will give the two of you the strength to endure and conqueror this "test" too. I think the counseling is a wonderful idea! I have only read 1 of your postings so far but I plan to keep reading and follow your story. I began to write this comment in response to the ignorant and insensitive comment that was placed before mine, but I decided, that I'll just pray for him/her and the attitude that would allow someone to be so judgmental not even knowing the situation. I would bet their opinion would do a 180 if it were a member of their own families. Anyhow, you keep your head up! Oh, I almost forgot, by the grace of God, My husband's sentence was overturned after 22 months and he is now a pastor in VA. Isn't God good?!
Be Blessed; Be Encouraged,
Katasha Woolard