Thursday, February 23, 2006

INSEPERABLE.......

"INSEPERABLE"......THAT IS WHAT YOU ARE TO ME.....AND IT'S SO WONDERFUL TO KNOW THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS BE A PART OF ME............"INCREDIBLE," THAT IS WHAT YOU ARE TO ME..........

YES, JIMMY.  THAT IS WHAT YOU ARE TO ME..........

STILL NO PHONE COMMUNICATION...IT HAS NOW BEEN 23 DAYS WE HAVEN'T SPOKEN.

LETTERS ARRIVE EVERYDAY FROM JIMMY, AND I SEND HIM LETTERS EVERYDAY..........HE JOKES IN ONE LETTER, THAT THE OFFICERS WANT TO KNOW JUST WHO IS THIS MAN, AND WOMAN, WHO SENDS HIM SO MUCH MAIL..........SOMETIMES I SEND HIM 8 OR 10 THINGS AT ONE TIME............AND THEY LOVE MY CARDS, WITH ANIMALS, BECAUSE EVEN THE ENVELOPES HAVE BEAUTIFUL COLORFUL ENVELOPES , OF SCENES WITH ANIMALS........JIMMY TELLS ME THE OTHER INMATES BORROW THOSE CARDS, AND TRACE THE PICTURES OF THE ANIMALS, AS THEY LOVE THOSE CARDS!  TOMORROW, I WILL GO BUY SOME MORE...THIS TIME I'LL GET DOLPHINS, AND WHALES, AND COLORFUL PARROTS AND BIRDS.......I'VE SENT JIMMY AT LEAST 30 CARDS, SO FAR....ONE EACH DAY.

PLEASE, IF ANYONE CAN SPEND A FEW MINUTES WRITING TO AN INMATE, LET ME KNOW.  HE STILL DOESN'T GET MAIL, AND I SENT HIM A CARD, WHICH HE WAS VERY APPRECIATIVE OF.  HE HAS GOTTEN NO MAIL, SO I'M BEGGING YOU, PLEASE LET ME KNOW........

WELL, IT'S ONLY 25 MORE DAYS TILL JIMMY'S PAROLE..

HIS PAROLE DATE WAS CHANGED FROM MARCH 6TH, TO MARCH 21ST.....THAT IS ONLY 15 DAYS LONGER.  HOWEVER, JIMMY WON'T BE COMING HOME.....HE WILL BE TRANSPORTED TO THE HALF-WAY- BACK HOUSE, AND HAS TO BE THERE FOR 180 DAYS, NOT THE 90 DAYS THAT WERE FIRST PROMISED.  SO, THAT MEANS, HE WON'T BE ABLE TO COME HOME UNTIL SOMETIME IN THE FALL.  SO, IF ANYONE MAY HAVE BEEN DISAPPOINTED THAT THINGS IN MY LIFE WERE GOING TOO WELL, AND I MIGHT END THIS JOURNAL...WELL, BE ASSURED...THE LIFE OF A PRISONER'S WIFE KEEPS GOING ON AND ON......I DON'T KNOW...MAYBE INTO ETERNITY..........

IN RESPONDING TO "TASTYOFXTASY,"  WHO COMMENTED IN THE LAST ENTRY..............MARRIAGE IS A VERY SACRED THING, AS IT IS A COVENANT BETWEEN GOD, AND THE 2 MARRIAGE PARTNERS..........NO ONE CAN EVER TAKE THAT AWAY FROM YOU..........NOT PEOPLE, NOT GOVERNMENT, AND NOT EVEN PRISON WALLS, ALTHOUGH IT MAY SEEM SO DIFFICULT, MOST OF THE TIME.  IN MARRIAGE, PEOPLE TAKE VOWS, AND FORM A COVENANT, OR PACT, BETWEEN THEMSELVES AND GOD.....YOU ARE A PART OF YOUR HUSBAND...THAT IS WHAT MAKES MARRIAGE SO GREAT........YOU ARE NO LONGER ALONE.ONE NEEDS A RIGHT AND A LEFT HAND TO CLAP, AND THAT IS WHAT IT IS IN MARRIAGE...YOU NEED A HUSBAND AND WIFE.  YOU ARE PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, SPIRITUALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY PART OF EACH OTHER.  DIVORCE IS A  MAN MADE LAW, BUT IN GOD'S LAW, DIVORCE DOES NOT EVEN EXIST....ONCE MARRIED, YOU FOREVER BELONG TO EACH OTHER. 

AND IT IS IMPORTANT TO ALWAYS REMEMBER, THAT A WIFE, ( OR HUSBAND) , CANNOT BE FORCED TO TESTIFY AGAINST HER SPOUSE, IN A COURTROOM....THAT IS THE LAW.

YES, MARRIAGE IS THE MOST BINDING FORCE IN OUR WORLD.......

YOU SEE, I LIVED WITH A MAN FOR 28 YEARS, AND I WILL ALWAYS SAY IT IS MUCH BETTER TO BE MARRIED....THERE IS NO COMPARISON.......WHEN YOU TAKE YOUR HUSBAND'S NAME, IT IS THE MOST WONDERFUL FEELING...UNIMAGINABLE.......................YOU SEE, WHEN I STARTED TO LIVE WITH THE OTHER MAN, IN THE EARLY 70'S, IT WAS FASHIONABLE TO DO IT, AT THAT TIME....AND NOW, IN THE 2000'S, IT IS ONCE AGAIN FASHIONABLE, AS SO MANY PEOPLE LIVE TOGETHER..........HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF, IN CYCLES...........WELL, I WILL SPEAK FOR MYSELF.  IT IS BETTER TO BE BOUND IN MARRIAGE...TO FEEL THAT DEEP LOVE AND COMMITTMENT.....AND YES, TO ACTUALLY FEEL AND KNOW, THAT YOU BOTH BELONG TO EACH OTHER...........

ALSO, WHAT YOU MENTIONED IN THE COMMENT, THAT YOU EXPERIENCE AS A PRISONER'S WIFE...IT IS JUST WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IS GOING THROUGH, SO DON'T FEEL YOU ARE ALONE.........WE ARE ALL TOGETHER IN THIS!

                                                     FRAN

PS....WHEN THE PHONE CALLS ARE VERY LOW, TELL YOUR HUSBAND TO KEEP TRYING DIFFERENT PHONES IN THE PRISON...HE MAY FIND A LOUDER ONE, AS WAS THE CASE WITH JIMMY AND I..............WHAT I ALWAYS DO, IS KEEP A NOTEBOOK BY THE PHONE.  THEN WHEN JIMMY CALLS, I GO DOWN THE LIST OF THINGS ABOUT THE HOUSEHOLD, THAT I NEED TO DISCUSS WITH HIM, THAT HAPPENED THROUGHOUT THE DAY........JIMMY TELLS ME "OK, FRAN, GO DOWN THE LIST.".....WE DO THAT FOR ABOUT 5 MINUTES OR SO...IF I NEED AN ANSWER FOR SOMETHING, HE WILL GIVE ME THE ANSWER IN HIS NEXT CALL, OR WRITE ME A LETTER........THEN, FOR THE REST OF THE CALL, WE DEVOTE IT TO SAYING LOVING THINGS.  ALSO, FOR THE LAST CALL OF THE DAY, AT NIGHT, WE TRY TO ONLY DEVOTE IT TO LOVE THOUGHTS...SINCE IT IS BEFORE BEDTIME, AND THEN WE CAN LAY IN EACH OTHER'S LOVING ARMS WHEN WE GO TO BED.........THE WHOLE KEY TO PRISON PHONE CALLS IS, BEING ORGANIZED, AND NOT LOSING ONE SECOND OF THE CALL!

 

4 comments:

sugar1337 said...

Sorry to hear that things with his parole didn't go according to plan.

lv2trnscrb said...

you should write a book, Fran; you always give good advice for those who have loved ones in prison.

sorry that Jimmy will have to be at the halfway house for longer than planned. I'm sure you expected that because I'm sure you have never gotten a single thing that they said happen when they said it would happen.

Will he be able to come home, though, on visits like when he was in Kintock?

betty

ccomeculo said...

Dear Fran:
It saddens me to hear that u still have not heard from Jimmy. This reminds me when my husband was @ CRAFT. So many days without hearing his voice. Hang in there and this nightmare will soon end.  

zachashdor said...

Dear Fran,
Hi,  My husband is currently in  CRAF awaiting to be transfered to Bayside State Prison.  It has been since March 20th since I have last seen him this is very hard for me not to see him.  I hope they transfer him soon.  Can you tell me any info on the prison and the visiting area when you go there and how it is as a prison.  My husband is in there for aggravated assault he was involved in a accident he was driving truck for his job fell asleep at the wheel and hit a person on a bike. Reply as soon as you can,   Thank you Dorothy