KEEPING YOU UP-TO-DATE

Hi!...Just to keep you up-to-date on what's happening....

We are so happy that Jimmy got his job back, but he will be working in another store....and for that reason, Jimmy was not approved to come home this week-end, whereas he should have really had a 2 day week-end furlough home.........But as life has it, he could not come home.  He feels that technically, and legally, he should really have been able to have had a furlough home this week-end.  He said he should really file a "1983," but he will let it pass by....he just wants things to move ahead.........And yes, we are now into October........

Funny thing....I hardly ever look at the calender or clock anymore...Whatever day, time, or year it is, is ok with me.......Time and it's passage just doesn't phase me anymore.......I've had a lot of time to sit and think about this........the passage of time is just about meaningless.........Our society is built around clocks, calenders, schedules...and . oh yes, let us not forget about holidays, which are such an important part of our world..........I sit here alone, and think to myself, and have come to the conclusions that holidays are really silly things..........to me, holidays mean nothing...yes, such a scrooge I have become!...when Jimmy was home a few weeks ago, he brought along some Halloween decorations.......Jimmy loves to decorate and celebrate life......The decorations are sitting on the bookshelf, still in their package........I don't think I can face holidays again.......it is like an "evil thing," is once again approaching for me.......it is getting worse every year since Jimmy is gone.......I just can't "do it," ...a "holiday", that is, again...at least not now anyhow.  But I put a smile on my face when Jimmy brought them home...I know he loves holidays, and I want him to be happy, and not disappointed, that I have grown to hate holidays...........Our last Christmas together, Jimmy had our house decorated beyond belief...lights inside...outside...white chistmas tree......everything........and everynight, we would sit on the coach, in the glow of the tree, and he would read me 1 chapter of a children's book, I had read at the age of 8 ...." The Little Princess.".......and I would fall asleep as Jimmy read to me......sometimes we were in bed as he read to me.....Jimmy always likes to keep our household traditional......he likes to keep up and make our own traditions........and we did for the 2 years that we lived together as husband and wife........and I hope it will go on, despite a 2 1/2 year lap.

The reason I married Jimmy is because he is simply a most wonderful man, and human being.  He is loving, warm, gentle...very, very funny and humerous...he is caring, not only for his wife, but for all others...Jimmy is a very sensitive man...being his wife, I have seen the soft, snsitive side of him (although being in prison and a half-way house, he needs to be tough and may not want to dwell on being a soft-hearted person, while he is locked up with a bunch of criminals).

There are many aspects of my husband........One trait that I fell in love with was his intelligence.......Jimmy is highly intellectual. He also has the ability to speak with people on "their level."...It's just hard for me to explain...but I have seen it in Jimmy many times........It was a few months after I married Jimmy, when we were still in Vegas, and I heard him speaking to someone about business.....I was driving the car, through the desert, and I was amazed at what I heard...I looked at him..I said to myself, "my gosh....I married this man, and I don't think I even realized just how intelligent he was." 

I love a very intelligent man....for me, it is a turn on......and I learn from him...he always teaches me about things...politics, goverment...science......the universe..............and oh yes, trivia..he remembers every important date that took place in our country and world......everything about every tv show, and movie, and movie stars.......I mean, he goes way back to "Leave it to Beaver!"........Jimmy tells me that as a young child, his parents sat him in front of a tv, instead of encouraging his very active and intelligent mind, to pursue activities that he would find intersting.....and so, he sat there, and memorized everything he saw on tv...from way back in the 50's......yes, that is my Jimmy...still a little boy at heart....Many times I laugh and say to Jimmy, "I was too young to remember that on Tv." (we are 2 years apart in age, mind you!)...He remembers everything........Nothing, I repeat, nothing , gets by Jimmy...he forgets nothing, and can recite things minute by minute as to what took place.

One very important thing about Jimmy is his love of law and legal issues....he is very knowledgable about law...he amazes me.......he can recite all those things that we studied, and then forgot about......like the Constitution, and anything else found in a history book........more than anything he loves our country, and has studied the laws, etc. of it.........Jimmy can recite the order of our Presidents......he can tell you about our presidents...and he is able to draw a sketch of each President, starting from George Washington.....The day of 911, he hung outside of our house a hugh flag...it was the biggest flag I ever saw!...Afterwards, a few neighbors followed suit.

And so you can see, the list of things that Jimmy talks to me about ,and teaches me, goes on and on.......I never lose interest in what Jimmy has to say....There is never a dull moment in our life....

Unfortunately, Jimmy is in  prison....but that is all within God's plan, I guess you may say..........I don't look at it as a bad thing, but a lesson taught............It is too bad he committed that  crime 7 months before I met him....otherwise, I know he would not have done what he did..........

And so, I'll say good-nite, and go to bed soon, thanking God that he put us together..........

As you can see, a lot of our relationship is built on "speech."...On communication....on talking to each other.......on trusting each other........And so, if you are a prison wife reading this, the best thing you can do for you husband or man, is talk with him, and keep up the lines of communication.....by letter, phone, and visits.........you've got to talk.............................................Nite!   Fran