Tuesday, August 1, 2006

answer to comment

answer to "bvanepps" comment in the previous entry......

"I DO NOTHING BUT WAIT FOR MY HUSBAND...........I RELAX, AND AM A LADY OF LEISURE!...................I DAYDREAM OF JIMMY ALL DAY, EVERY DAY!"................................

ARE YOU SATISFIED WITH THAT ANSWER, OR DO YOU WANT SOMETHING ELSE?!

I'VE DONE IT ALL IN MY LIFE!........."BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!".............THAT'S MY MIDDLE NAME!

.................................FRAN........(JUST A WOMAN IN LOVE!..............oddly enough, in love with her husband!.............(AS MOST OF AMERICA ISN'T, WITH A 50 PER CENT DIVORCE RATE IN OUR COUNTRY)

..............WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO SAY?........I'M ON WELFARE, WITH 10 OUT OF WEDLOCK KIDS..........USE FOOD STAMPS............SIT AROUND ALL DAY SMOKING AND WATCHING SOAP OPERAS............????????????????/

NOPE, THAT'S NOT ME...............I DON'T FIT INTO THE PUBLIC'S VIEW OF A "PRISONER'S WIFE."............I don't fit into the mold, that society casts upon prisoner's wives.......................

I AM JUST ME.........................FRAN....................THE WIFE OF JIMMY.......................TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT!

I DO EVERYTHING THAT NORMAL PEOPLE DO, ON A DAILY BASIS..............I RUN THE HOUSEHOLD, WITH 3 PETS, AND A SMALL GARDEN ON MY PATIO..........I READ, ALTHOUGH I'M PARTIALLY BLIND, I WATCH TV, MOVIES, SING, LISTEN TO MUSIC, AND DANCE AROUND THE HOUSE.............I WRITE, AND HAVE GOTTEN AROUND 15 ARTICLES AND POEMS AND HAIKUS PUBLISHED IN THE PAST 3 .5 YEARS, SINCE JIMMY HAS BEEN IN PRISON.................YES, I WASH CLOTHES IN MY HOUSEHOLD, ON A DAILY BASIS..............I MOP THE KITCHEN AND BATHROOM FLOORS ON A DAILY BASIS....AND VACUUM THE CARPETS EVERY DAY, TOO..............................

I AM A WELL ORGANIZED PERSON.............I MAINTAIN A CERTAIN SCHEDULE FOR MYSELF, ON A DAILY BASIS...................I KEEP RECORDS OF THINGS, THAT YOU COULD NEVER IMAGINE!.......................if something or someone upsets me, i am right there writing a letter, or whatever to ever whom it may concern......i believe in my rights as a human being and citizen of Amerca...............I AM WELL KNOWN FOR WRITING "LETTERS TO THE EDITOR,' FOR MY FEELINGS ON DIFFERENT SUBJECTS...............

GOD HAS BLESSED ME VERY MUCH, THROUGHOUT MY LIFETIME...EVEN NOW, WITH A HUSBAND IN PRISON, I FIND WE ARE BEING BLESSED.............

YOU  CAN GO BACK TO THE BEGINNINGS OF THIS JOURNAL, WHERE I TALKED ABOUT MYSELF A LOT..........................

I WAS AN R. N. FOR 28 YEARS.............LOVED IT WHEN I DID IT, BUT HAPPY TO HAVE RETIRED AT THE AGE OF 48, FROM A VERY TAXING JOB............AM A FREE-LANCE WRITER, NOW....HAVE A BSN, FROM FAIRLEIGH DICKINSON UNIVERSITY, AND A MASTER'S IN EXECUTIVE NURSING FROM COLUMBIA UNIVERSITY, TEACHER'S COLLEGE.............HAVE BEEN LISTED IN EDITIONS OF "WHO'S WHO IN YOUNG AMERICAN PROFESSIONALS," AND IN "WHO'S WHO IN YOUNG AMERICAN EXECUTIVES."..BELONGED TO THE INTERNATIONAL HONOR SOCIETY IN EDUCATION, "KAPPA DELTA PI," (which DR. RUTH WESTHIEMER belonged to), HAD MED-SURG. CERTIFICATION, WAS CHOSEN WHILE WORKING IN LAS VEGAS, AS 'AMBASSADOR OF COURTESY IN LAS VEGAS,' NOMINATED BY ONE OF MY PATIENTS..................GRADUATED WITH A 3.8 CUM. AVERAGE FROM COLUMBIA UNIVERSITY, AND I AM CURRENTLY A DOCTORAL STUDENT THERE..............TRAVELLED TO 28 COUNTRIES..........SOME I WENT BACK TO 2 OR 3 TIMES, SUCH AS ENGLAND, ITALY, AND PARIS...........HAVE LIVED IN SAN DIEGO, CALIFORNIA, PALM SPRINGS, CALIFORNIA, NEW YORK CITY FOR 16 YEARS, AND LAS VEGAS,FOR 10 YEARS,  AND NOW NEW JERSEY...............AM LICENSED AS AN RN IN 5 STATES....NEW JERSEY, NEW YORK, CALIFORNIA, NEVADA, AND WASHINGTON...............................SO, THAT'S ME!.................LOTS OF STUFF!...........FULL OF SURPRISES!.....................PEOPLE TELL ME I AM A FUN PERSON.................ALSO, THAT I AM A KNOWLEDGEABLE PERSON .........PEOPLE SAY I'M VERY FUNNY AND COMICAL, AS MY HUSBAND IS TOO, AND WE MAKE A GOOD TEAM............

IN MY JOURNAL, YOU HAVE SEEN ME GROW FROM A VERY DEPRESSED WOMAN, WHO COULD NOT EVEN GET OUT OF BED, THROUGHOUT THE YEARS OF WAITING.....................AND NOW, I AM UPLIFTED, AS JIMMY IS GETTING READY TO COME HOME FOR GOOD.......................HOWEVER, I WOULD DO IT AGAIN, AS I LOVE JIMMY.

I AM A WOMAN OF PROGRESS AND MOVING AHEAD..................I COULD NEVER BE STUCK IN A RUT, AS MANY PEOPLE ARE!

I FEEL EVERYONE SHOULD REACH FOR THEIR HIGHEST STAR IN LIFE!.................BE THE BEST THAT YOU CAN, AND DO THE BEST!

AND THAT IS WHAT LIFE IS ALL ABOUT FOR JIMMY AND MYSELF!................ACHIEVEMENT AND HELPING OTHERS.................TRYING TO MAKE THE WORLD A HAPPIER AND MORE PEACEFUL PLACE, AND A BETTER WORLD TO LIVE IN!

...............AND SO BE IT!...................THAT IS ME!..........sorry if i got side-tracked a little....THERE ARE SO MANY ASPECTS TO ME, THAT IT IS HARD TO WRITE THEM ALL DOWN.  THAT IS WHY JIMMY FELL IN LOVE WITH ME.....................I AM A MULTI-FACETED PERSON....AS HE IS, TOO.  THAT IS WHY WE ARE HUSBAND AND WIFE...............WE ARE ONE AND THE SAME, THAT'S WHY.

NOW, MAY I ASK, WHAT DO YOU DO ALL DAY, AND EVERYDAY?...............do you wash your clothes, and iron them, may i ask?................IF YOU ARE UP TO IT, PLEASE GIVE ME A "BLOW BY BLOW " DESCRIPTION OF YOUR DAY!

MY MOTTO IN LIFE CONSISTS OF 3 WORDS........."PEACE, BALANCE AND HARMONY."

IF HUMAN BEINGS ON OUR PLANET WOULD FOLLOW THIS, THERE WOULD BE NO MORE WARS, NO MORE SICKNESS, NO MORE TRAGEDY................THE WORLD WOULD BE A WONDERFUL PLACE TO LIVE IN, AS GOD INTENDED......................

NO HATRED, AND NO CRIMINALS, AND NO MORE PRISONS....................WELL, WE CAN ALL TRY TO MAKE THIS A BETTER WORLD, AS IT STARTS WITH ONE.

...........................fran

 

6 comments:

emabecmar said...

Hi Fran, wow you lived an exciting life and still do. I applaud you for accomplishing so much in life. I love stopping by and reading your journal. I look forward to you telling how your day had went with Jimmy, and all he does for you. You are truely blessed my friend with a wonderful husband, as he is blessed with a wonderful wife. I wish you both all the best life has to offer and I hope Jimmy comes home soon and can stay permanently. ((((Hugs to you both)))) Cindy

bobandkate said...

Hi Fran,
I think that there is a lot more to all of us than is apparent from a few words in a journal entry. Glad that you and Jimmy are having such a good time on his visits home. I know he is home today (Wednesday), so enjoy yourselves. Soon he will be with you for good,
Kate.
http://journals.aol.co.uk/bobandkate/AnAnalysisofLife/

adlessor said...

With all that said  WOW.    I bet they are sorry they asked.   Hugs to you and Jimmy.          Dawn

bvaneps834 said...

Dear, dear Fran, Wow, you sound mad!! I hope not. I was interested in how you spend your time the days Jimmy does not come home. You stated somewhere back a few entries that you are a "recluse". Do you interact with other people when he is gone, like friends, relatives etc. I am also an RN and was a working one for 34 years. I am lic in only two states tho. I also write and have had magazine articals published. I also have a husband that I love very much and have been married to him for 52 years. We have three grown and married kids and 7 grandkids that we see (and baby sit some of them) Frequently. We do all the usual household chores together--well I do some, husband does some- he says it take two of us to make one person. We go to Church, go camping in our camping trailer, visit with various friends and family, play cards with them and with just the two of us sometimes. We go to the movies once a month, go out to breakfast with friends couple times a week, go out for supper/dinner very often.sometimes with others, sometimes alone. We visit people in the nursing home. We spend 6 months a year in a southern state and while there go bowling(he does--i watch), swimming, traveling. We take tours to Mexico every year. We go to CA every few years--and love the hotel where you 1st met if it is Nevada Landing in Jean, Nevada (it sounded like it from your journal). We have stayed there many times. We go shopping and Mall walking--I have to use a walker with wheels--. I guess I could go on and on--I cook--we eat--I wash the clothes--he hangs them up and carrys them upstairs--we snuggle as much as we did 52 years ago. This is getting long--so will sign off. Hope that when Jimmy comes home for good he will be able to stay home and that you will have the life you expect to have. Best of luck to you both.

wfhbear said...

I'm impressed with your resume. Regards, Bill.

cutebutpsycho028 said...

I've read your journal on and off and I usually just keep to myself, but this entry leaves me no choice but to comment.
First of all, what is it you're implying about people who are on welfare and use food stamps??? That service is available for a REASON. Just because there are single women out there who have children (yes, they may be "out of wedlock", but does that make the women or children any less human, less deserving of food, health care, shelter, etc.??) and who need this service, are you implying that you're better than them? Just curious to know where you get off talking like like you're "above" those women who don't have some kind of "perfect" life, as you claim to have.
And yes, many people ARE stuck in ruts, but not always by choice. People do have problems, you know.  People experience abuse, mental illness, accidents, things that are beyond their control. And yes, sometimes people make mistakes in life, as you may know, seeing as how your husband is in prison.
I guess my point is (if you haven't caught on by now), is that you tend to write as though you have delusions of grandeur and don't seem to realize that not everyone is as "fortunate" as you and not eveyone has such an "impressive resume".
I also tend to think you're a bit naive if you think that the world could simply "change" and there would be no more "war, sickness or tragedy". Those things will always exist....always have, always will. I'm just not exactly sure where you're coming from with this fairy tale idea.
Oh well, just my oh-so-humble opinion.